Society has made us believe that being alone is equivalent to loneliness and that our worth is mostly determined by having a partner. From a very young age, we are conditioned to seek companionship. We search for a “better half” or a “soul mate” to feel accepted and less alone.
It took me years to understand one of life’s most important principles: I can never build a home in another person. The only home I can truly build, renovate, and return to as I please is within myself. Realizing that full acceptance, peace, unconditional love, and emotional support can only come from me—not from anyone else—has helped me feel less disappointed when I don’t receive these things from others.
Some time ago, I remember listening to a song with the lyrics, “I am on your side, babe, never moving sideways.” For a moment, I wondered: Who could ever provide me with such unwavering love? Then, my inner voice answered: “YOU!” After years of seeking love, emotional safety, validation, and a sense of home in others, I finally understood—only I can truly be that for myself.
To be alone, to embrace solitude, is beautiful. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t seek companionship—love is beautiful. Sharing your life with another is precious. But never forget your own home. Never forget to make your own home radiant and full of light before seeking one externally.
Love. Love is beautiful.